The internet is siding with a woman who refused to sell her horse to please her boyfriend in a new viral post.
On Reddit’s popular forum, “AmITheA**hole”, u/nohorsethrow, detailed his predicament in hopes of getting opinions from other users.
The 24-year-old Redditor has been riding horses all her life. She started taking lessons around the age of 4, as mentioned in the post. When she grew up, she started helping in a stable. Years later, the woman the Reddit user was working with was going to sell a horse named Lady. Fortunately, u/nohorsethrow’s parents could afford it at the time, so Lady became his own.
In the United States, approximately 2 million people own horses, most of these owners live in the state of Texas where ranch life is commonplace.
“She’s my best friend and I love her very much,” u/nohorsethrow wrote.
When she first entered into a relationship, she made it clear that caring for Lady was a lot of work and would take up a lot of her time. Her boyfriend told her it wouldn’t be a problem. Before her relationship happened, she could spend up to 4 hours a day at the stable. She reduced her hours when she started dating and now goes every other day for around 3 hours to clean, ride and feed her horse.
Six months into the relationship, her boyfriend told her that she was too stable and should devote more time and effort to their relationship, leading to an argument.
“Somehow his family got involved and said it was weird to prioritize like I did,” she wrote. “I wasn’t comfortable with it but I’m a bit of a pushover so I agreed.”
She has decided to ride two days a week but now feels pressured to look after Lady so as not to upset her boyfriend who has admitted he wants her to sell the horse. She first thought it was a joke, but it wasn’t.
“We argued about it and he apparently thinks I can just put her down because she’s old anyway,” she explained. “I was furious at this and told him that this was absolutely not going to happen and that I would never sell her. He said any reasonable person would sell or lay down their horse in favor of their boyfriend and the only reason for which I wouldn’t is because I only hang out with other crazy riders.”
Many users have taken to the comments section to defend the Redditor.
In one of the top comments with over 20,000 upvotes, @justsippingteahere wrote: “Holy NTA – you’re BF seems to be in control of the AF. You’ve worked hard to compromise with him but he continues to drive the line until he finally gets everything he wants and you sacrificed everything that was important to you Many abusive partners start the cycle by trying to isolate their partner You have a whole support network at the stable and he wants you to give up all of that plus your horse who is like a member of your family to you This is super messed up and a HUGE red flag I know it really hurts but be grateful that he showed you who he really is and how he (doesn’t) prioritize or frankly care about your feelings and well I would run away, I wouldn’t walk away from that guy.
In response to the popular comment, u/reluctantdragon agreed, saying “He sees something you like and wants to take it away from you 🙁 That should be enough to warrant a red flag, but I really like this system comment for assistance! Keep them around and leave it! So many red flags.”
U/DelurkingtoComment said the Redditor wasn’t the con**, adding, “Keep the horse, lose the boyfriend.”
The post has over 13,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.